You Don't Have to be SuperMom

I'm sure some of you have noticed my hiatus from writing lately. At least I hope someone has.  I mean, there is someone reading what I write, right?!  Besides you, Mom.

I don't know.  It's kind of felt like I haven't had much to say lately.  I mean, many of you consider bloggers to be experts in their niche, right?  Isn't that our whole point of being here? I chose parenting as my niche, because when I first became a mom I knew it all!  Oh buddy, was I wrong.  I mean, when they were tiny, I knew when to feed them, how to get them to sleep, what was wrong when they cried.  Now that they're getting older though, the more I get that overwhelming urge to run away.

The two year old will be whining, the four year old wants to fight and argue with everyone, the house has become a disaster that would make my own mother disown me, and I don't even know where to start to fix any of it.  Or if it's just all normal.

It's 11am on a Sunday.  One kid is still in his pajamas, and the other... well I'm lucky if I can keep a diaper on her.  Right now she is hopping around in a pillowcase like she's gonna win the world championship sack race, while Bubba is chasing her on his bike.  There's pillows and blankets everywhere and what I'm pretty sure is crumbled up toast from their breakfast all over the rug.  And right now? I'm just happy that they aren't yelling for me.

That's what being a mom really looks like.  At least in my world.  Maybe your kids have their hair fixed at all times and their toys are all put away.  Maybe you made a full breakfast and sat down to eat with them, while I was thrilled that mine were taking bites of their eggs while running circles around the house because getting them to eat anything is like pulling teeth.

Sometimes you have to relax I guess.  Trying to fit into this SuperMom role doesn't always turn out how you want it to, and you can't let it get to you.  That's what I have to keep telling myself lately, because otherwise I would feel completely hopeless.

Then I think about how amazing my kids are.  When they're making that mess with the pretend food, it's because they were making lunch for Momma.  When she refuses to wear pants, it's because she wants to be a big girl and pee on the potty.  When they're crying about not being able to go into the kitchen with me, it's because they want to help and to be closer to me.

One day, I'm going to realize that I can't remember the last time we laughed at bubble beards, because I was in too much of a hurry to let them have a bubble bath and play in the tub.  My daughter wont want me to sing to her anymore at bed time, my son will stop coming to me to kiss his boo-boos, and they're both going to grow up one day and have families of their own.

Life is too short to waste.  It's time to remind myself that instead of getting overwhelmed and feeling like I'm doing something wrong, I need to focus on the things I'm doing right.

The Importance of Gratitude

In an increasingly individualistic society, it’s hard to understand why we need to be grateful and what the benefits of gratitude are. On the one hand, we are used to provide for our needs alone (most people feel that money can and should buy almost anything), and on the other hand, if someone helps you, your first thought is to do something in return and be even, instead of feeling and expressing authentic gratitude.

So why is gratitude such an important value if everyday life suggests we can live without it?

Gratitude means, first of all, understanding and valuing the kindness that stands behind a good action directed at you. Feeling of loneliness and alienation disappear when you realize that someone out there really cares about you - gratitude works like a social binder that brings people together.

People who make a habit out of expressing gratitude enjoy a wide range of benefits with a direct impact on their well-being:

Being happy

Researches have suggested that people who are grateful are also happier. Cultivating gratitude brings other positive emotions as well, such as feeling energetic, enthusiastic, empathetic and hopeful. The good thing about relying your happiness on gratitude is avoiding the negative phenomenon called hedonistic adaptation – for instance, if you are happy only because you have money, you’ll need to have more and more money in order to experience the same level of happiness in the future. With gratitude, the level of happiness increases as we make habits like holding a daily gratitude journal.

Improving health

Several studies performed in the last years have shown that people who keep a gratitude journal exercise more, sleep better, and experience fewer physical symptoms. Feeling gratitude instantly induces a relaxation response and tackles the symptoms of depression. Gratitude has extraordinary effects on sleep – people who count their blessings often enjoy improved sleep quality, have increased sleep duration, and need less time to fall asleep. Gratitude has also been linked to a lower risk of developing coronary diseases as it lowers stress levels.

Eliminating negative feelings

It’s hard to achieve results by simply saying “From now on, I will improve my self-esteem”. Negating bad feelings will not make them disappear instantly – you need to replace them with something good, and gratitude is the root of all these positive aspects: optimism, spirituality, altruism, confidence, and empathy. The result is developing a brighter personality.

Boosting your career

Do you know the main reason why most people quit their job? You have probably dealt with it too – not receiving recognition in the workplace. Gratitude makes wonders both for people who express it and for people who receive it. Gratitude strengthens the relationship between mentors and protégés, encourages networking, makes managers more effective, and improves decision making skills. A workplace where gratitude plays an important role is more enjoyable and allows people to advance their careers.

Making your days better

There’s a famous quote saying “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” (Annie Dillard). Gratitude has the power to change your day for the better. Let’s say you are having a bad day because you had an argument with a friend, someone yelled at you, or you were stressed at work. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed and think only about the bad things in your life. Your mind frame won’t change unless you decide to do so, and one of the most efficient ways of immeditaley feeling better is thinking of the things you need to be thankful for: being loved by family and friends, having a roof over your head, and simply being alive.

Improving your personal relationships

Every friend, family member or co-worker we come in contact with will make us angry at some point. Instead of reacting in anger and getting mad at them, stop for a moment and think of the reasons why you should be grateful for that person – such as the good things they have done for you. Switching your attitude will enable you to express your discontent without hurting them or being rude.

Learning how to feel and express gratitude is like getting lemons and making delicious lemonade instead of complaining about their sour taste, don’t you think so? In the end, everyone will be happier!

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Private Schools Can Offer Educational Advantages for Parents and Students

The first Catholic school in the United States was established in 1606 in the town, which is currently known as St. Augustine, Florida. The school was founded by the Franciscan order. Georgetown was the first Catholic college that was formed in 1789. Georgetown continues to be one of the most prestigious universities in America. Since the 17th century until present-day, thousands of private schools have been established. According to the Council for American Private Education (CAPE), there were 30,861 private schools in the United States during the school year of 2011 and 2012 and more than five million enrolled students. 42.9 percent of students attended Catholic schools, 19.8 percent attended nonsectarian schools and 14 percent attended conservative Christian schools.

Private school education provides parents with the choice to determine which program matches their expectations. Many parents who select private schools over public education are satisfied with overall structure of the programs. Some of the factors that parents consider are the teacher to student ratio, disciplinary effectiveness, academic standards, graduation rates, standardized test scores and opportunities for student to partake in extracurricular activities. Some parents also incorporate the schools’ religious foundations in their school selection criteria.

According to the National Center for Education Statistics, parents are more satisfied with the opportunity to select the right schools as opposed to being required to enroll their children in a district neighborhood school. Some parents believe that public school districts may not provide students with a well-rounded education, and many fail to meet the needs of students. Many parents also believe that private schools offer a better learning environment and more one-on-one attention from teachers.

When determining which schools offer the best private education, parents must conduct research on the each school’s ability to provide the right environment and education that's needed for their children. If you’re considering private school, you should first discern the specific needs of your child and jot down your expectations. There are websites available online, such as Private School Review, to help you create a list of schools in your area. You can determine which schools offer the right schedules and curriculum for your child and whether the tuition fit within your budget. If you’re looking for single-gender schools, you can also find this information throughout your online research. There are many schools that are designated as girls’ schools and boys’ schools, like the Archer School for Girls listing. Before making the final decision, tour the school, get a feel for the environment and discuss your questions and concerns with the school administrative staff and teachers.

When a parent is actively involved in his or her child’s education, it can result in a positive outcome as a whole for the child. One of the beginning steps that a parent can make to show support to the child is to select the school that offers the best education all-around. Many private schools have strong foundations in providing quality education and guiding students to become successful and productive citizens in society.

Reducing Spit-Up: GERD vs GER and how Enfamil A.R.™ Can Help

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When my four year old was a newborn, he was... how should I put this? A productive burper. After a feeding, I would lay him up on my chest, pat his back a few times, and then shudder as the spit-up rolled down my shoulder. I tried several things that the pediatrician recommended: like keeping him upright after a bottle and stopping after every ounce to burp him. He still spit up. That's when we found out about Gastroesophageal Reflux (GER for short), or uncomplicated reflux.

Not to be confused with GERD or Gastroesophageal Reflux Disease (Acid Reflux), GER isn't usually a result of excessive acid production. Though parents often associate frequent spit-up and irritability with acid reflux, about two thirds of otherwise healthy infants may have uncomplicated reflux. It's common for babies to spit-up while their digestive system develops, and every baby has periods of fussiness and irritability.

American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends conservative management and lifestyle changes as first line options and advises against the overuse of medications that reduce the production of gastric (stomach) acid. One of these changes includes using thickened feedings such as Enfamil A.R.™. Enfamil A.R provides the benefits of thickened feedings with more balanced nutrition and less hassle compared to adding rice cereal to formula.

My little guy would've really benefited from using a formula like Enfamil A.R. We had the joy of adding extra rice cereal to every one of his bottles; and let me tell you­ the measuring, shaking the bottle until it all dissolved (that was a workout in itself), cleaning the dried cereal from the bottles... hassle wasn't even the word I'd use.

Enfamil A.R. is the #1selling brand of formula for spit-up and is clinically proven to reduce spit up by over 50% in infants with frequent spit up while still providing the complete nutrition your baby needs to reach key milestones.