Helping Your Child Develop High Self Esteem

Today, whilst we are living in an incredibly vibrant and aware culture, with advanced healthcare and technological solutions - there is a growing emotional epidemic of low self-esteem, that is plaguing our society and as we all know, starts when we are children.

Many parents feel the need to start teaching their children emotional strategies to overcome low self-esteem and to love themselves for who they are, which can be particularly challenging when it comes to the teenage years… but even when children are little, this is an essential stage of their development that can be very formative on how they feel and act in later life.

This is particularly true with today’s “selfie culture” combined with the bombardment of advertising messages preying upon people’s insecurities that they don’t feel lovable as they are and therefore need a particular product to feel good about themselves (e.g. clearasil).

In this way, we are being encouraged to look for external solutions to internal challenges which is why so many people form addictions to things, and to a lesser extent, why people feel getting a personal loan from somewhere like is the answer to all their problems.  

Now, it could the answer to their short-term financial problems but money is not going to make someone feel “better” about who they are on the inside, and we need to start helping our children generate high self-esteem and high levels of self-worth than aren’t  contingent on external factors, but to love and accept themselves as they are - simply because they exist.

That said, there’s a limit to how much a parent can do when this situation is so internal.  Yet, there are some things you can do, mostly rooted in the aspect of providing stability, and here’s a few top tips on how to do that.

Having a stable sense of home is imperative.  This should be their “safe place” that they feel comfortable and settled in.  The well known saying “tidy house tidy mind” is true when it comes to modeling stability - if you have a clean, tidy, and well organized home this has a significant effect on the whole family’s emotional health and wellbeing.

It’s important to teach the principle that you don’t need to be rich in order to be stable.  You do, however, have to have an income - and that money doesn’t buy happiness, but it can facilitate activities and experiences that create happiness.

Taking care of one’s personal appearance on a daily basis is vital for one’s emotional health and sense of pride.  It’s important to emphasize the emotional benefit of basic routines such as cleaning our teeth each day, showering, and trimming our nails.

In a world that seems to be suffering with an emotional epidemic of low self-esteem, low self-worth, and low-confidence; it’s important we encourage children to learn to love themselves and accept themselves.  This can be a challenge, particularly if this is an area that you struggle with in your own life… but it’s the remedy to so many parental nightmares such as our children turning to drugs or being dropouts.

At times, it can feel like you aren’t in control of your emotions but the following principle can help offer your children some perspective.  It’s important, particularly if your child is being negative or pessimistic to remind them that “where attention goes energy flows” and that “thoughts become things”.  For more information on this, you might want to visit

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